Avoid updating option if there's no value updated (#8518)

Avoid updating option if there's no value updated (#8518)

Summary:
Try avoid expensive updating options operation if
`SetDBOptions()` does not change any option value.
Skip updating is not guaranteed, for example, changing `bytes_per_sync`
to `0` may still trigger updating, as the value could be sanitized.

Pull Request resolved: https://github.com/facebook/rocksdb/pull/8518

Test Plan: added unittest

Reviewed By: riversand963

Differential Revision: D29672639

Pulled By: jay-zhuang

fbshipit-source-id: b7931de62ceea6f1bdff0d1209adf1197d3ed1f4