cmake: update build<lib>.cmake for supporting ninja

cmake: update build<lib>.cmake for supporting ninja

* affects cmake builds for: yaml-cpp, thrift, jaeger, opentracing external
projects

changes done:
* artificat BUILD_BYPRODUCT which tells ninja which library will be generated
after the build(needed for dependent build libs)
* use cmake_command if `make` not found so that we use default generator, cmake
will identify and use ninja directly in this case.
* minor reorder of boost path in jaeger build external projet

fixes: https://tracker.ceph.com/issues/51029

Signed-off-by: Deepika Upadhyay <dupadhya@redhat.com>