msg: drain stack before stopping processors to avoid shutdown hang

msg: drain stack before stopping processors to avoid shutdown hang

`AsyncMessenger::shutdown()` called WorkerProcessor::stop() first,
killing the worker threads, then queued a C_drain callback via
stack->drain().  If a worker had already exited its event loop it never
processed the callback, so drain.wait() blocked forever and the monitor
shutdown hung for minutes.

Move stack->drain() ahead of the processors->stop() loop.  With the new
order the workers are still alive to acknowledge the drain.

Fixes: https://tracker.ceph.com/issues/71303
Signed-off-by: Nitzan Mordechai <nmordec@redhat.com>
(cherry picked from commit 5fbb9c5e464e3a2227f0c4729b2e6a1bc2f6f9d6)