cephadm: fix upgrade order validation when using --daemon-types with --hosts

cephadm: fix upgrade order validation when using --daemon-types with --hosts

Fix upgrade validation to check earlier daemon types on both same-host and other-host groups when host filtering is used.

Previously only daemons on other hosts were validated, allowing upgrades to bypass the enforced upgrade order in stretch mode clusters.

Add regression tests covering daemon_types+hosts and services+hosts scenarios.

Fixes: https://tracker.ceph.com/issues/75397
Signed-off-by: Shubha Jain <SHUBHA.JAIN1@ibm.com>