librbd: use rwlocks instead of mutexes for several fields

librbd: use rwlocks instead of mutexes for several fields

Image metadata like snapshots, size, and parent is frequently read,
but rarely updated. During flatten, we were depending on the parent
lock to prevent the parent ImageCtx from disappearing out from under
us while we read from it. The copy-up path also needed the parent lock
to be able to read from the parent image, which lead to a deadlock.

Convert parent_lock, snap_lock, and md_lock to RWLocks, and change
their use to read instead of exclusive locks where appropriate. The
main place exclusive locks are needed is in ictx_refresh, so this is
pretty simple. This fixes the deadlock, since parent_lock is only
needed for read access in both flatten and the copy-up operation.

cache_lock and refresh_lock are only really used for exclusive access,
so leave them as regular mutexes.

One downside to this is that there's no way to assert is_locked()
for RWLocks, so we'll have to be very careful about changing code
in the future.

Fixes: #3665
Signed-off-by: Josh Durgin <josh.durgin@inktank.com>
(cherry picked from commit 995ff0e3eaa560b242da8c019a2e11e735e854f7)