rgw_file: avoid stranding invalid-name bucket handles in fhcache

rgw_file: avoid stranding invalid-name bucket handles in fhcache

To avoid a string copy in the common mkdir path, handles for
proposed buckets currently are staged in the handle table, before
being rejected.  They need to be destaged, not just marked deleted
(because deleted objects are now assumed not to be linked, as of
beaeff059375b44188160dbde8a81dd4f4f8c6eb).

This triggered an unhandled Boost assert when deleting staged
handles, as current safe_link mode requires first removing from
the FHCache.

Fixes: http://tracker.ceph.com/issues/19036
Signed-off-by: Matt Benjamin <mbenjamin@redhat.com>
(cherry picked from commit 6cde812c92e5bba9f85fbf8486ebe69b55952370)