osd: handle boot racing with NOUP set

osd: handle boot racing with NOUP set

This is a follow-on to 7139a232d26beef441ffbc13bc087baab3505ea8,
which handled the NOUP set + clear case when the OSD found out
about the flag being cleared.  However, it's possible that the
flag will get cleared but the OSD won't get a map update (because
it hasn't subscribed and is not doing any work).

This means that it is *more* likely than before that we will
restart the boot process even though the OSD did successfully
mark us up.  However, as before, it is unavoidable because there
is no notification of whether our boot request succeeds or not.

And it is still mostly harmless (an extra mark down + up cycle).

Fixes: http://tracker.ceph.com/issues/15678
Signed-off-by: Sage Weil <sage@redhat.com>
(cherry picked from commit 11e4242fbdb2f2f6f654d4cb3a7c95d5b38a88c2)