os/bluestore/bluefs: Fix race condition between truncate() and unlink()

os/bluestore/bluefs: Fix race condition between truncate() and unlink()

It was possible for unlink() to interrupt ongoing truncate().
As the result, unlink() finishes properly, but truncate() is not aware
of it and does:
1) updates file that is already removed
2) releases same allocations again

Now fixed by checking if file is deleted under FILE lock.

Fixes: https://tracker.ceph.com/issues/70855
Signed-off-by: Adam Kupczyk <akupczyk@ibm.com>
(cherry picked from commit e5f8892a1249a0ce631082d1fbf8884237434a0f)
(cherry picked from commit 4f83038f13e60f02d2a14c59df232b392b57a904)