rgw_file: alternate fix deadlock on lru eviction

rgw_file: alternate fix deadlock on lru eviction

This change is an alternate fix for two problems found and fixed
by Yao Zongyou <yaozongyou@vip.qq.com>.

The deadlock can be avoided just by not taking it in the recycle
case, which invariantly holds the lock.

The invalidation of the insert iterator by the recyle-path unlink
we'd like to handle as a condition in order to preserve the cached
insertion point optimization we get in the common case.  (The
original behavior was, indeed, incorrect.)

Based on feedback from Yao, removed the RGWFileHandle dtor version
of the unlink check, which I think happened twice.

Signed-off-by: Matt Benjamin <mbenjamin@redhat.com>