rgw: multisite log trimming only checks peers that sync from us
if there are peer zones in our zonegroup that do not sync from us, they
won't have any sync status that corresponds to our logs. fetching their
status will give us empty markers, so we'll never make progress with log
trimming
the get_zone_data_notify_to_map() contains only the zones that are
configured to sync from us, so use that instead of get_zone_conn_map()