cmake,run-make-check.sh,deb,rpm: disable SPDK by default

cmake,run-make-check.sh,deb,rpm: disable SPDK by default

but we still enable it in `run-make-check.sh`

* cmake: disable SPDK by default
* run-make-check.sh: enable WITH_SPDK so at least we can ensure it
  builds
* deb,rpm: add uuid-dev / libuuid-devel as a "make check" dependency

Fixes: https://tracker.ceph.com/issues/41330
Signed-off-by: Kefu Chai <kchai@redhat.com>
(cherry picked from commit 3234fb3982483d43a23df902628178566128b7b4)

Conflicts:
	CMakeLists.txt
	debian/control
	run-make-check.sh
- disable SPDK for nautilus, even in run-make-check.sh, since the feature is not
  being used in production